Dreams and goals are so valuable to have. If you don’t have any at the moment, I encourage you to set some time aside and get really clear with what you want out of this life, or even just this year.
And then there’s those of you who are similar to me: you know exactly what you want. Or a rough a vision of where you want to be. But you’re waiting for everything to line up.
If I asked you what you were waiting for to go after your dream, you’d probably respond with:
the right idea. a more fleshed out plan. the right backing. enough money. support from my partner. until my kids are older. when I’m more confident in my skills. for the economy to improve. for someone to think it’s a good idea. for everything to align. after I get my MBA. for a sign. until I’m older. until I’m smarter.
Want to know what I hear in all of that? The need to be bullet proof. You’re waiting to be perfect. You’re waiting until a time when you can be guaranteed not to fail.
How do I know this? Because I’ve been waiting for the same thing.
I had a major aha moment when watching Brene Brown’s second Ted talk on Shame where she details that we’re all waiting to go into the arena (aka going after our dreams) until a time when we know we can’t fail. We’re waiting for an infallible armor. We’re waiting to be perfectly perfect so that the critics are quieter and the hecklers in the area aren’t as strong.
Brene says it best: that is never going to happen. We aren’t ever going to be bullet proof. And we sure as hell aren’t ever going to be perfect.
So, whatever dream you’re waiting to pursue, whatever goal you’ve suppressed deep, deep inside…go after it now. Start working on it now. If you wait until you’re perfect, it’s never going to happen. If you’re waiting to be good enough, it’s never going to happen. If you’re waiting for people to stop wondering “who do you think you are?” they wont. Because all of those critiques are only replayed by you. We all want to see you achieve your dreams. We want to see you reach your goals. We want to see you happy. But you have to begin the process. And then we’ll all be there to support you, to lift you higher.
What are you waiting for?