There was an assumption I always (always) made: if this is the path I’m pursuing in life – this work, these mediums, this career – then the constant use of all things social media was just part of the gig. A nature of the beast. Something to accept and fit into my schedule. Post more and post often. Show the behind-the-scenes and the center stage. Balance encouragement with vulnerability. All the time. It’s just a part of the work. Despite feeling the shudder of but this doesn’t feel good… I operated with equal parts acceptance, belief, and justification.
And then after years of tweets and snaps and filters and posts and likes and feeds… in the heat of an instant, I felt done. Tired. Drained. Over it. The ‘it’ being keeping up with the pace of my social media. Fuck it. I’m signing out. And for a bit, I fully I did.
Something happened in the moment away. I realized that I had blindly accepted this way of interacting and never challenged my assumptions about why I had to do it. But in the push for growth and the commitment to my mission…I forgot that I don’t have to do things because “it’s just what you do”.
I don’t have to be constantly connected (it’s exhausting).
I don’t have to be on social 24/7 if I don’t wanna (I don’t).
I don’t have to show all the beautiful places I’m in any given week so people know (external validation isn’t needed to know it’s beautiful).
I don’t have to consume in order to share (feeds don’t bring me joy). I can find my own path forward.
We all need to challenge things we’ve previously accepted. It’s not always about jumping in, leaning in, doing more, hustling harder. But instead, retreating, stepping back, taking a break can give us the most clarity.
There doesn’t always have to be a grand exit, a major blow up, or an elaborate explanation to back away. Sometimes, we know in our gut that it’s just time. Time to ask… is this a must? or did I just tell myself it was?
Time to question… is this bringing me joy? or is there another way?
It’s high time to consider the infinite possibilities for any outcome. Please ditch that template someone else gave you—it only represents minute possibilities.
Maybe you have a hobby to dial down… a commitment you won’t renew… a habit you’re tired of… a way someone told you it had to be. If you’re more drained than you are energized, silently back away. Often the greatest steps we take forward come only after we retreat.