Maxie McCoy

Big opinions on being called ‘needy’

Why the f*ck do we call women ‘needy’? I get so fired up when I hear someone describe a person that way. Partially, because for so long I’ve feared being described as needy in the same way I feared being called fat. Women get described as needy because the world wants women to take up as little space as possible:...
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But seriously…Why not you?

Do you ever do this super weird thing whenever you start to dream…of a better future…of a more hopeful ending…of possibilities that could be real for your life….Which is to cut your dreaming off and immediately follow the idea with BUT…. But someone is already doing it better.But I don’t have what it takes.But people would judge me.But I don’t...
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How to keep going.

“Let everything happen to you; Beauty and terror. Just keep going. No feeling is final” ― Rainer Maria Rilke About this. What no one tells you about ‘just keep going’ is that the going might mean so much turmoil. The going might mean sadness that feels like it’s going to swallow you whole. That the going might mean being unable...
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Does it all feel irrelevant now?

Is my work totally irrelevant? I contemplated all of this and then some while still in bed. It was noon on a Friday. So there’s that. I was taking a “mental health day” a few months ago and decided to scroll through my camera roll from the last few years. This was an attempt to finish a spreadsheet that documented...
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