I love when things just “happen” to go my way. When the stars align. When things are easy. When everything seems to just be happening in my favor.
I don’t love feeling like crap. Nope, sure don’t. And I’m sure neither do you. Whether it’s anxiety, or being bummed, or being heartbroken, or feeling lost… that yukky stuff comes up here and there…and it’s no freaking fun.
Yes you can repeat to yourself “this too shall pass” (which it will). And you can tell yourself that there are much worse things that could be happening (because there are). But in the moment it doesn’t actually make you feel any better. Your pain is your pain and you’re the only one feeling it.
From one highly futuristic person to another, I’ll tell you that your discomfort is so unbelievably necessary for your growth. Think about hiking to the top of a mountain…up there is a view like you’ve absolutely never seen. But in order to see it, you must put your muscles through hell getting up the incline. You actively put one foot in front of the other, despite the fatigue, because you know where it’s getting you even if you’ve never seen it. You have faith that the view will be entirely worth it.
Your life is no different. There will be so many times where you’re sitting in some shit. And sometimes it won’t be because “it’s happening to you” it’ll actually be because you’re choosing it. You’re choosing it because in order to get to where you’re going you know that some major discomfort must be gone through first in order to get there.
That’s where I’ve been the past few weeks. Let’s just say that I’ve majorly met my quota for tough conversations, all ones that I initiated. I’ve some some how managed to fill two weeks with more uncomfortable discussions than I did the entire 8 months prior. And I didn’t like it one bit…while I was in it.
Now that I’m on the other side of them all, I realize how much our dreams and our joy depend on our tolerance for discomfort. We’re only going to make as much progress as we are OK with not feeling well – with feeling (and even initiating) a bit of pain.
Taking a risk requires discomfort. Following your heart requires discomfort. So too do speaking your truth, being vulnerable, breaking up, standing on your own, and taking a chance.
Without the discomfort you have no appreciation for when it’s absent. Discomfort means you’re growing, evolving, and learning. All things that your dreams depend on to become reality.